Have you ever wondered what your teenage children want from you? You nurture your child from infancy through teenage but suddenly your cute little sensible child turns into the scattered brained person. With wild mood swings, teenagers started to take life risks and enjoy their dangerous behaviors.
A research offers an explanation for these mysteries. Brain imaging data helps in testing their emotions and behavior. Teenagers feel emotions and relationships in the same manner as an adult but the only thing which creates a difference is their immature brain which is still developing. Parents should take this an opportunity to stay tuned in and emotionally connected by providing them helpful attention rather than protective attention. Let’s divide teenage into four groups and look closer to the behavior:
Age 11 to 12
When the child reaches this age, his brain is still maturing and is responsible for prospective memory. Certain kinds of reasoning may decline at this stage and at this point of time, parents are the great influencers of teens. Here, parents should play their roles in building memory cues into the daily routine like to ask children to find his books, clothes etc. Try to involve them in your daily chores in a playful manner. By remaining calm and supportive, influence the brain development of a teenager. Research shows, that mother who is affectionate and understanding can help kids for their healthy mindset and these kids as an adult is having lesser anxiety, fear, and more self-control.
At the age of 13, teenagers become very sensitive. The peer opinion or a family decision can scatter them into tears. Social stress is at peak and suddenly their behavior started creating problems like slamming doors, don’t even bother what parents are saying, the wrong perception about parents and close relatives are the common things for this group. Such kind of things creates a difference between children and parents as their brain is still maturing which should be minimized by parents. Advice and help them in learning self-soothing skills like meditation, exercise and listening to the music. It really helps in filling up the gap.
Also, encourage and educate teenagers about social behavior. Ask them not to make friends based on the popularity but make friends as per your interests. If the teenager is undergone a severe stress, then family support can play as a magic wand and reduces depression to a great extent.
This group is well-known as a risk-taking group. They have no idea why they are doing it but this group of teenage blindly trust anyone and enjoy the dangerous games. Or we can say, risk taking is at high peak and fear of danger is temporarily suppressed. At this stage, making good friends is very important instead of involvement with few dangerous geeks. Here, parents should take it very seriously as it involves the life risk. The only advice to parents is staying calm, supportive and try to make a good and healthy relationship with your child.
Show your child about your friendly side of nature instead of the parental side. Research shows, the teenage of this group who are closely connected to their parents are less likely to take risks in their lives and it also shows the positive activation of their brain.
When a child reaches this age group, the brain maturity is evident but still developing. IQ level increases and teenager now active for executive functional skills such as solving problems and planning strategies. Social skills are still maturing and it will keep on maturing till the age of 20 or more. This group still lack the ability to decipher people motive and identify a complex social situation. Parents make sure to spend some time with your child on daily basis like you can ask many questions such as how was your day, how’s your friends, is anything you want to share, is anything you need. These types of questions build confidence between child and a parent.