During the early 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrind conducted a research study on more than 100 preschool-age children. Using parental interviews and other research methods, she discovered some important dimensions of parenting. These dimensions include disciplinary strategies, warmth and nurturing, communication styles, and expectations of maturity and control.
Based on these dimensions, she suggested that the majority of parents display one of three different parenting styles. Further research by Maccoby and Martin also suggested adding a fourth parenting style to these original three.
Let’s take a closer look at the four parenting styles and the impact they can have on a child’s behavior.
One of the three major styles identified by Baumrind was the authoritarian style . In this style of parenting, children are expected to follow the strict rules established by their parents. Failure to follow such rules usually results in anger and punishment. Authoritarian parents don’t explain the reasoning behind these rules but they expect self-regulation for their child.
If asked to explain, the parent might simply reply, “Because I said so“.
While these parents have high demands, they are not responsive to the child. They expect their children to behave extraordinarily and not make errors, yet they provide very little direction about what their children should do or avoid in the future. Mistakes are punished, often quite harshly, yet their children are often left wondering exactly what they did wrong.
According to Baumrind, these parents “are obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without any reason or justification.”
Parents who exhibit this style are often described as domineering and dictatorial. Their approach to parenting is one of “spare the rod, spoil the child.” Despite having such strict rules and high expectations, they do little to explain the reasoning behind their demands and simply expect children to obey without any question.
A second major style identified by Baumrind was the authoritative style and those with an authoritative parenting style establish rules and guidelines that their children are expected to follow. However, this parenting style is much more democratic.
Authoritative parents are responsive to their children and willing to listen to questions. These parents expect a lot of their children, but they provide warmth, feedback, love and adequate support.
When children fail to meet the expectations, these parents are more polite, nurturing and forgiving rather than punishing.
Baumrind suggested that these parents “monitor and communicate clear standards for their children’s conduct. They are more assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive. Their disciplinary methods are encouraging, rather than demanding. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative.”
It is this combination of expectation and support that helps children of authoritative parents to develop skills such as independence, self-control, and self-regulation.
The final style identified by Baumrind was what is known as the permissive style of parenting and these parents sometimes referred to as indulgent parents, have very few demands to make of their children. These parents rarely discipline their children because they have relatively low expectations of maturity, self-regulation and self-control.
According to Baumrind, permissive parents “are more responsive than they are demanding. They are nontraditional and lenient, do not require mature behavior and avoid confrontation.”
Permissive parents are generally supportive and communicative with their children, often taking on the status of a friend more than that of a parent.
In addition to Baumrind’s initial study, researchers have conducted other studies that have led to a number of conclusions about the effect of parenting styles on children.
Among the findings of these studies:
- Authoritarian parenting styles generally lead to children who are obedient and proficient, but they rank lower in happiness and social competence.
- Authoritative parenting styles tend to result in children who are happy, competent, and successful.
- Permissive parenting often results in children who rank low in happiness and self-discipline. These children are more likely to experience problems with authority and tend to perform poorly in school.
- Uninvolved parenting styles rank lowest across all life domains. These children tend to lack self-control, have low self-esteem, and are less capable than their peers.
Why is it that authoritative parenting provides such advantages over other styles?
Because authoritative parents are more likely to be viewed as sensible, fair-minded, and just so their children are more likely to comply with the requests that these parents make. Also, because these parents provide rules as well as explanations for these rules, children are much more likely to internalize these lessons.
Rather than simply following the rules because they fear punishment (as they might with authoritarian parents), the children of authoritative parents are able to see why the rules exist, understand that they are fair and acceptable, and strive to follow these rules to meet their own internalized sense of what is right and wrong.
Of course, the parenting styles of individual parents also combine to create a unique blend in each family. For example, the mother may display an authoritative style while the father favors a more permissive approach.
This can sometimes lead to mixed signals or even situations where a child seeks approval from the more permissive parent to get what they want. In order to create a cohesive approach to parenting, it is essential that parents learn to cooperate as they combine various elements of their unique parenting styles.
Limitations and Criticisms of Parenting Style Research
There are, however, some important limitations of parenting style research that should be noted. Links between parenting styles and behavior are based on correlational research, which is helpful for finding relationships between variables but cannot establish definitive cause-and-effect relationships. While there is evidence that a particular parenting style is linked to a certain pattern of behavior, other important variables such as a child’s temperament can also play a major role.
There is also some evidence that a child’s behavior can impact parenting styles. One study found that the parents of children who exhibited difficult behavior began to exhibit less parental control over time. Such results suggest that kids might not misbehave because their parents were too permissive, but that, at least in some cases, the parents of difficult or aggressive children might be more likely to simply give up on trying to control their kids.
Researchers have also noted that the correlations between parenting styles and behaviors are sometimes weak at best. In many cases, the expected child outcomes do not materialize; parents with authoritative styles will have children who are defiant or who engage in delinquent behavior, while parents with permissive styles will have children who are self-confident and academically successful.
These four parenting styles might also not be necessarily universal. Cultural factors also play an important role in parenting styles and child outcomes.
“There is no universally “best” style of parenting,” writes author Douglas Bernstein in his book Essentials of Psychology. “So authoritative parenting, which is so consistently linked with positive outcomes in European American families, is not related to better school performance among African American or Asian American youngsters.”