Perhaps, one of the hardest parts of dealing with kids is to cope up with their tantrums. Many parents do not have an idea of how to handle tantrums. They only act on the situation which in-turn is repressive and in most cases it may worsen the condition.
In times, your kid’s tantrums can be frustrating, especially when you are in public places or if you have guests at home. When all attempts to calm down the noisy child went in vain; people usually tend to lose their temper and come down hard on their kids. This attitude, in turn reflects parent’s aggression and impatience in getting the situation under control.
Relaxing a kid is not an impossible task until parents don’t lose their nerve and get frustrated. You should learn to strike on the right spot when your child is throwing tantrums. We suggest you, someone of the working methods, to cope with the child and settle the storm quickly.
Speak calmly and closely:
Your kid started yelling because something is not happening the way as she wanted. You may have rejected to get her favorite toy or refused to give the chipped chocolate ice-cream at the wrong time.
You can try to sit close to the kid and explain her in a soothing voice. She will yell for some time, don’t lose your calm. Start talking to her and you will see your child’s shouting intensity coming down gradually. Take her into your arms and soothe her.
Listen – don’t argue:
Logic is not child play, and when the matter is dealing with tantrums, you are too far from discussing logics or getting into arguments with your kids.
You may choose to listen to your kid’s problem, let her speak when she wants to and listen to her patiently. Try to explain her in a pleasing way and see your child understanding your words.
Some kids don’t enjoy physical contact while telling things. They may shout louder and worsen your attempt. So, sit near to them and listen but not argue.
Don’t send her a message:
Some kids use tantrums as weapons to get what they want. If parents cannot handle it – they buy what the child wants, to avoid the embarrassment. These views send the wrong message to your kid to repeat the process more and more times to gain whatever she wants to have.
On the other hand, punishing your kid may leave a bad impression on parents and in some kids it shows counterproductive results, and they start to make more noise getting totally out of control.
Change the location:
If you are at bakers and your child is crying for an unreasonable junk, pick him up and leave the place. Sometimes kids just don’t get what you are trying to tell them while their total focus is on things what they badly wanted and all the tricks in the book melts down for no good reason.
You can avoid getting into this by distracting your child’s attention. Taking him away from the place can help you distract his focus on something else, and you can easily avoid a loud situation.
Tantrums are natural in kids, and parents should understand the moment is entirely dominated by their children. It is smart to be more reasonable, calm and tactful to get a grip on the situation rather demanding and behaving oppressive with your kids.
Try out the methods I gave you in the post; it worked well with me. Hope you can make out your noisy day calm with the tricks.